“I’m going to be in bed for at least a couple days; this sucks. Its a reminder of just how unpredictable life can be. I have been doing everything perfect and I still get kicked in the….”
Ever feel that way, like you’ve done everything right and still you end up back where you started?
If so, you are not alone. This is actually from a very good friend of mine and someone who is in about the best shape of anyone I know…my personal trainer. If it can happen to him, it can happen to any of us.
I just want you to know that you are not alone and that you can and will get up again. In the face of defeat is where we often show our true character.
So here’s six helpful tips to getting back on your feet again after a setback.
1. Remember, you can never lose everything you have gained. The most valuable assets you have are in your head and your heart and you retain those gifts forever. Setbacks are usually physical in nature, not spiritual or mental. Study an great person in history and you will find a lifetime full of setbacks and failures…failures that were responded to with tenacity. (see earlier post about Donald Trump)
2. Remember to be grateful for what you do still have. This one is important because no matter what you have lost, if you are still alive, you have things to be grateful for and gratitude is one of the most powerful tools you have in your transformation toolbox and one you can use in any circumstance with any skill level. This is the great energy shifter.
3. Remember that the most brilliant solutions are born from setbacks and failures. They say that necessity is the mother of invention and when you have a great enough of a need to change something, with enough pain, that is the most likely place and time to find the best solutions.
4. Remember that others can gain strength from your successes. When you do get back up and go again, especially if you share your journey and your story and your tips and research, you will inspire many people so perhaps they don’t have to go through what you have gone through. Wouldn’t it be nice to know it wasn’t in vain?
5. Remember a worthy journey is made of many small steps. You may not always get there overnight, the important thing is that you arrive. Brush yourself off and ask yourself, “What can I do right now, even if you know it’s not everything you “should be doing”.
6. Never forget your “why”. It is so important to hold a larger vision that will get you through times of difficulty. On a long trip, you may hit some bumps in the road, flat tires, tickets, maybe even an accident, but you don’t stop where you have “failed” and stay there, do you? No, you get grab that ticket out of that officers hand, toss it in the glove box with all the others and keep on going because you hold a bigger vision of where you are headed and you keep doing what it takes to get there. Always take some time to reflect on what your “why” is and what you are working for. Only you can know what that is.
My trainer will get back up. He has even developed complete training guides to help people with back injuries continue to excel physically and not be bedridden. He is a shining example of someone who faces pain quite regularly and finds a way to get through it and feel better because he keeps the bigger picture in mind.
Like he reminded me,
“It’s not about how hard you can hit, its about how hard you can get hit and get back up!” ……..Rocky Balboa
Thanks for tuning in and feel free to share a bit of your story under comments.
P.s. On the one year anniversary of my father’s passing, I dedicate this article to you dad because no matter how many times you fell, you always got right back up. I’ll always admire that about you. And, you were never afraid to try something new.